tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5973390001126451201.post7589002836759936621..comments2023-09-15T06:14:51.297-04:00Comments on 30 years old, 4 kids, and Pre-Med. Am I crazy?: What's a girl to do?30&Pre-Medhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06218435167075217426noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5973390001126451201.post-325748995046510802009-12-20T20:46:00.866-05:002009-12-20T20:46:00.866-05:00My perspective is much different, inverse in some ...My perspective is much different, inverse in some many ways. I am a 27 year old male with a spouse of 8 years, no kids though. I plan to apply everywhere and will go anywhere, I know you understand. I read your post and was disappointed. My wife and I grew up in the deep south, moved to the midwest for my wife's graduate school and then the northeast to finish my undergrad and for a lucrative postdoc for my wife. The biggest lesson that is an American city is an American city. If you can live in the south, east, west or north then you can live in the south, east, west of north. <br /><br />It doesn't matter. I would argue that moving far from somewhere that you and your spouse are comfortable is exciting, challenging and certainly refreshing to a relationship. If your spouse is dead set on not moving, then there are more serious questions that should be answered. Who isn't excited about a fresh start?<br /><br />My limited advice would be to resolve the issues regarding your children first then apply everywhere and anywhere just to see if you can get in. If you do get in to a school in an area of the country where your husband is against moving then resolve the issues with you husband then. Because, you still don't know if where you can even get in so worrying about it now is a bit premature. <br /><br />Good luck, and for christ sake apply broadly if you really want it. YOU have one life to live. If your life isn't complete without achieving the goals that you want then go after those goals, at all cost. <br /><br />Like you said, do you want to resent anyone, no to mention the closest person to you, for the rest of your life?Paramedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03831693846052671379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5973390001126451201.post-80788844937489327502009-05-14T10:18:00.000-04:002009-05-14T10:18:00.000-04:00My husband asked me that same question and my resp...My husband asked me that same question and my response was pretty much the same thing you said "anywhere that is willing to accept me". He had the same reaction as your husband, so I decided to give him time. SO as time went by I decided to go ahead and start applying anyways, he saw my struggle and realized how important and not to mention beneficial this career is for our family and that we will be sacrificing 4-6 years toward a more stable future. We sat down one day and discussed it again and he told me that he was willing to go wherever I got accepted and we would do our best to work it out. So I would agree with Shay, give them time and if he knows how important this is to you and your family he will come around. :)Lunanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5973390001126451201.post-5641672908263399332009-04-21T00:45:00.000-04:002009-04-21T00:45:00.000-04:00Thank you Shay! I really needed that today... I r...Thank you Shay! I really needed that today... I really do hope he does.30&Pre-Medhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06218435167075217426noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5973390001126451201.post-70738758768193790622009-04-06T02:18:00.000-04:002009-04-06T02:18:00.000-04:00As a married woman myself. I would give him more t...As a married woman myself. I would give him more time to think about it and wait until the time comes. Meanwhile, still apply to all the medical schools you want. Push comes to shove he will follow you because the career plan that you have outlined for yourself is for the betterment of your entire family (financially). When your bringing home $200,000 a year, im sure he wont be complaining about how he had to move to the carribian or alabama for 4 to 6 years. Stay positive and encouraged. They will come around.Shayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17957648800737581972noreply@blogger.com